![]() They have spoken with her a few times on the phone but found the calls awkward. I’ve told my daughters that I absolutely don’t want to stand in their way if they want to interact with my sister. I know that my sister has her own legacy from our traumatic upbringing she has talked about having been in therapy for decades. (My sister said that as my mother’s only daughter she was entitled to the jewelry, and my girls should be grateful that they got anything.) When I wanted to arrange extra care for my mother, my sister said I could pay for it she wasn’t going to allow me to piss away her inheritance, which was not substantial in any event.Īfter my mother’s death, I found the stress of dealing with my sister’s self-absorption and anger increasingly difficult. Before I moved my mother, she divided up her jewelry, taking everything of value for herself and leaving my two daughters with leftovers. Throughout this period, my sister’s behavior was appalling. Then I moved her to a retirement home near me, and until her death made hundreds of visits to see her there and in the hospital. For a year, I traveled back and forth every weekend to deal with my mother’s health issues. My sister told me that she had done her part and that now our mother was my problem. Some time ago, my mother ran into health problems and was hospitalized. We live hundreds of miles apart my sister remained in the city where we grew up and where my mother continued to live after my father passed away. We were never close but we used to get together for holidays. (My father was the invisible man, allowing her ego and anger to run amok.) Today I am in my early 70s. Growing up, my sister and I experienced daily physical and emotional abuse from our mother, who was prone to frequent outbursts of terrifying rage. I don’t want to have any contact with her, but I don’t want to deny my two adult daughters contact with the only family that exists on my side. Recently her husband, with whom I have a good relationship, asked me to reconsider. Several years ago, I told my sister that I wouldn’t be upset if we never spoke again. ![]()
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